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03/30/19 12:54 PM #3277    


Bruce McKelvey


Good Lord willin...I will be there in late October...if not before.


04/10/19 04:26 PM #3278    


Barbara Peate (Sabo)

Sue Matthews Munn sent me the Obituary for her husband, Cliff Munn that died on March 9, 2019.  She's still struggling after losing her husband of 50 years.  He had been under hospice care for a year but, prior to that, she had taken care of him since his Alzheimer's onset.  I want everyone to know that she gave so much of herself and feeling guilty now and again for not having patience with him and after that for putting him in hospice care.  The following is something I posted on Facebook, and she told me she read it every day.  If anyone is going through this with a loved one or does in the future, number one, we all get impatient and, number two, maybe read this.....

Do not ask me to remember.  Don't try to make me understand. Let me rest and know you're with me.  Kiss my cheek and hold my hand.

I'm confused beyond your concept.  I'm sad and sick and lost.  All I know is that I need you, To be with me at all cost.

Do not lose your patience with me. Do not scold or curse or cry. I can't help the way I'm acting, Can't be different 'though I try.

Just remember that I need you, That the best of me is gone. Please don't fail to stand beside me, Love me 'till my life is done.

Susie did just that.......

04/25/19 10:24 PM #3279    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

For those of you who remember Mr. Shelton.  crying

Shelton age 92, born March 22, 1927, passed away April 19, 2019. Charles H. Shelton, formerly of Bay Village, passed away due to complications of Parkinson's Disease at Friendship Village Columbus. He was raised in Wakeman, Ohio. After graduating from Denison University he taught English at Rocky River High School. Charles loved raising his four children in Bay Village and truly enjoyed working with his students. Retirement opened a new phase in Charles' life where he discovered new interests, including running, biking, global travel and volunteering. He is remembered with love by his children Polly (Steve) Schneider of Granville, Ohio, Charles (Donna) Shelton of Phoenix, Arizona, Mark (Elaine) Shelton of Huron, Ohio and Thomas (Liz) Shelton of Neptune, Florida, along with eleven grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Arrangements made through Cook & Son-Pallay Funeral Home and Crematory, Parsons Ave., Columbus, Ohio.

04/26/19 09:12 AM #3280    


Lynn Jaenke (Erb)

Mr. Shelton was one of my favorite teachers.  I learned so much from him, and when I was teaching school in Burlington, VT, I was told after I signed the contract that I didn't have any text books or curriculum.  I was teaching PE in the morning, and these were afternoon classes make up of kids who were struggling in many, many ways.  I came back to RR, and Mr. Shelton spent a lot of time with me, and gave me reams of super interesting material to do with these kids.  I was so appreciative.  He was the first teacher who ever made me really think about the meaniing of the books I was reading.  I especially remember an after school study of The Lord of the Flies.  It blew my mind open, and has influenced my whole life, just as Mr. Bohn's trips to the valley for the nature club influenced my life in ways I didn't have a clue about at the time. 

I just finished a very intensive, immersive class to become certified to be and End of Life Doula, and to Susie Munn I would say to be gentle with yourself.  What you gave to your husband is beyond compare.  I do understand though, because I find myself kicking myself for things I didn't do right in my marriage with Phil.  Maybe they were small things, but I magnified them in my mind after he died.

As for hospice, I have been a volunteer for several years at a hospice facility, and it is a place of sadness sometimes, but more often it is a place of life, joy, and heartfelt love.  We help those who are there to live as fully as possible until they die.  I would never feel guilty about putting anyone there....I would go there myself.  Many people who bring their loved ones there during the last few days of life remark that if they had known, they would have come sooner.  I love my time there, and love playing my harp for all the residents and their families (not the only thing I do there).  Some of the finest people I have ever met are hospice workers and volunteers.

As for the issue of not speaking to people, I hope that wasn't aimed at me, because I certainly don't feel I am not speaking with anyone.  I appreciate all the gifts that everyone brings to this forum.  I don't travel much at all because I can't afford to monitarily.  Fortunately, I am so happy liviing here in Vermont, and have great community and friends...and close family.  The biggest great news is that my youngest son, who is doing a fellowship at Johns Hopkins, has just accepted a position at the UVM Medical Center as a surgeon.  I am so excited to have him coming back here on a permanent basis! 

We all have experienced a lot of losses recently, and this trend will continue as we all edge closer to our final days.  I work at the front desk at the Respite House (our hospice facility), and for some strange reason, I always count up on the census I have at the desk how many people are my age and younger and how many are older.  Almost always, there are more people there that are my age and younger.  That's pretty shocking to me, and a wake up call to be as present to my life as I can be, cherishing every little detail of the day.  So much of my time is spent in the past or future, and that's not where I really am...I need to be just where I the present.  So, this is a long message, as I haven't written in quite awhile.  I wish the best to each and every one of you.


04/26/19 02:04 PM #3281    


Paul Berns


Hi - This May appear twice - though I am not your father I must say I am very proud of you - as a fellow musician and high school classmate I only aspire to use my talents in such a meaningful way .  And the wonderful news on your son - congratulations- my best always - Paul Berns




05/02/19 03:14 PM #3282    


Linda Peate (Powrie)

Everlynnie:  Please realize that those who slammed people on this site and on Facebook know who they are.  It's ridiculous that we cannot discuss our views, disagree, and move on.  Slamming and belittling people who don't agree w/you is sad and in my opinion, wrong.  It truly is NOT you my friend.  People pulled off this site because they were so furious that their choice didn't become President.  Period.  I haven't liked the "other side's" President, but it doesn't make me mad at anyone nor not speaking to anyone  Just move on!  That's all.  I remember my parents having spirited discussions about the next President w/friends from "the other side", and they laughed, then ate dinner, and moved on.  What in the world has happened?  Why does anyone want to make others defensive about who they voted for?   I like everyone no matter how you vote!  

05/05/19 09:45 AM #3283    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Check out the latest Where In The World Are We adventure. We also look forward to your travel adventures through story and/or photos. Send them in any time:  You don't have to go far---a trip to the beach, traveling to visit family, a boat ride, just any adventure that has you traveling a bit. Photos of your travels and we love to see photos of your grandchildren!

The background photo was taken in Holland, Michigan at the Dutch Village by Cinnamon.  It's tulip time!!

05/09/19 03:58 PM #3284    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Where In The World Is Mike Callahan???

06/16/19 09:38 AM #3285    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Where in the world are we now???

Don't forget to send in your fav recipes!

07/04/19 03:35 AM #3286    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Bruce McKelvey's wife, Marsha, is now in hospice care in Phoenix.  Keep them in your spiritual practices.  Drop Bruce a note through this website.

We have new "Where in the world are we?" submissions and I hope to get them up soon.  Just got my son out of MetroHealth Hospital in Cleveland (a great place!) Tuesday.  He's fine and will be heading back to Phoenix Friday.  Meanwhile, we watch for fireworks on the deck.


07/16/19 05:15 PM #3287    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Check out the 2nd of Peg's interesting travel adventures!

07/30/19 11:00 PM #3288    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Bruce McKelvey will be here in Ohio the week of August 14.  He will be at the Burntwood Tavern on Detroit Rd in River on Friday, August 16, at 6:00 PM.  He is inviting anyone who cares to join him.  Stop in for libations, dinner or just to say hello!

There will be a Celebration of Life for Marsha on Saturday, October 26th from noon until 6:00 pm. The event will be held at the Sun Lakes Community Center in the Navajo Room. The address is 25601 S Sun Lakes Blvd, Sun Lakes 85248. This is Sun Lakes Phase 1. A Bar will be available for you to purchase beverages if you like. Food will also be served. I will need an RSVP by the end of September so I can provide the caterer a headcount. If more than the headcount shows up..that's fine, however, there may be no food left. Please RSVP to or any questions you may have to my email address at This will be a nice event to pay tribute to an awesome lady...who just happened to be my wife....

08/22/19 10:30 AM #3289    


Linda Peate (Powrie)

Nancy Westerfield Depew was the enthusiastic planner of all of our minis when she was healthy enough to do so.  I didn't know her in high school very well, but certainly got to know her through our minis.  What a sad loss to our class.  Her attitude never waivered.  She always said, no matter how sick she was, that there were many more who had it worse than she did.  I will miss her and will pray for her family.

08/24/19 08:19 AM #3290    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Nancy's Ceremony:  9/14  11 am   American Legion 22001   Brookpark, FP

Please keep her family in your spiritual practices.  They are a very close family.  Condolences can be sent to:  Don Collopy, 13800 Bennington Rd., Middleburg Heights, Ohio  44130  broken heart 

Nancy loved Maria's Field of Hope Sunflowers and we went together a few times.  I was out near Cedar Point Rd recently and that field is starting to bloom.  I've been told that mid-September will be the best time to see them and I had planned to take Nancy this year.  There is another field at 35135 Chester Rd in Avon just west of the southwest corner of Jaycox.  The photos below were taken on one of our visits.  If you get a chance during September, stop by to see the sunflowers in either location and think of Nancy with a smile.  She would like it and will no doubt be there in spirit.


08/24/19 09:59 AM #3291    


Roberta Young (Berwanger)

what a nice thing to do for nancy

08/25/19 11:34 AM #3292    


Patrick Gillespie

The picture is Larry "Gilbs" Gilbert. He is sitting in our first apartment on Detroit Rd in Lakewood.







08/25/19 12:10 PM #3293    


Barbara Peate (Sabo)

Thanks for posting the pictures of Nancy, Ellen.  That's a great way to remember her.  She will be missed but looking down on us smiling.  She'll always be at our mini's......

08/25/19 02:48 PM #3294    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Thanks, Pat.  Now if we can get others to chime in on the next one cuz I think Pat's going to know them all.....If no one else IDs some of them, we'll call on Pat.  The photos actually came from Pat....laugh

09/01/19 09:02 AM #3295    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Check out Ron Hanson's latest travel adventures on "Where in the world are we?"

09/03/19 08:16 AM #3296    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Nancy's obituary is now posted on her In Memory page with full information about her Celebration of Life Service on Saturday, September 14.

09/04/19 11:02 AM #3297    


Bruce McKelvey

Nancy.....I was so blessed to see you two day's before you passed. You were an inspiration to me and a great Facebook friend to Marsha. You are a rose amoung thornes . Also...RIP "GATHERING OF GERIATRIC SILLINESS"  2008-2019. 

09/06/19 04:04 PM #3298    


Alan Greenleaf

I found this happy photo of Nancy, and thought I would share it here.  We miss you Nancy!  Our class has the nicest ladies!

09/16/19 12:44 PM #3299    


Barbara Peate (Sabo)

The only people I can see clearly is Cartwright and Wentz (in the suit standing up).  Maybe Sally Little in the forefront?  Hard to see......

09/19/19 10:11 AM #3300    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

Good choices, Barb.  I wondered if that was Sally Willey sitting with the long scarf?  And who is it with all that beautiful long hair?  Maybe time for Pat to chime in.....I bet he knows who all of them are.

09/21/19 08:46 AM #3301    


Ellen Aspinwall (Templar)

From Pat this morning.  Thanks, Pat, for clearing up at least some of the mystery!

Larry Gilbert is on the side holding a cigarette.
Of course, Cartwright.
Not sure of the fella in the suit, originally thought it was Tom Kelley.
His wife, Janice is in front of him.
My wife, Mary Ann is next to her.
Not sure of anyone else. Don't think it was Sally Wiley.
Again, a picture from our first apartment in Lakewood.

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